I am Lin, I believe

That people are naturally creative, resourceful and whole.
That you are never given a wish without also being given the power and ability to make it come true.
That you always have choices.
That there’s treasure in not taking things personally.
That service is the kind of relationship in which you have a commitment to who the other person is.
That there isn’t anyone you couldn’t learn to love once you’ve heard their story.
That the world needs us to play big, to play full out, to be the expression of life and love.

Start With Why

I wasn’t always starting with ‘why’. I knew the ‘what’: get my credentials, get a job, and get good at it. And I was good at the ‘what’, I graduated with double Masters’ degree from UK, volunteered in Africa, and was in charge of HR and overseeing office operation in an international company.

I was hit over the head when I was complaining to a dear friend about how I felt unfulfilled at work and I felt completely stuck. I asked him what is his secret about looking forward to work every day. He simply said ‘I have a compelling why to what I do. When you have that, things do not happen to you, they happen by you, through you, and as you.’ I was touched and I decided to change the way I was. 

I started the quest to get clear with my ‘why’. And my ‘why’ found me, through the teachers and fellow practitioners in The Enneagram, Co-Active coaching and leadership, Positive Psychology, neuroscience and mindfulness.

My ‘why’ is about relationships; is about enabling.

I am here to enable the ‘I see you’ experience in relationships where people feel seen, heard, understood, appreciated and empowered.

Be Like The Bamboo

Legend has it that the Chinese Moso bamboo takes four years to grow three centimetres above ground when they root more than a hundred metres underground, by the fifth year, they shoot up to thirty metres in less than a week because of their robust root system.

The bamboo teaches me many things, among them commitment to self-growth.

I am fascinated by understanding myself and others. I spend a lot of time studying personalities and typing systems. I love The Enneagram because it is such a respectful model: we may establish default ambitions, we may stereotype ourselves, we may fall into habitual ways of existing and running through our day but actually, in truth, we are, all of us, sacred, untypeable.

When we truly understand ourselves and others; the only thing we will treat ourselves and each other is compassion.

From ‘Miss Nicey’ to ‘Madam Mediator’

I know what it feels like spending lots of energy trying to make everyone happy and not attending to own needs; not being able to tell the other person things that would be difficult for them to hear. My own angry feeling used to be guilt-inducing and anxiety provoking and you guessed it, it affected my relationships.

Often, it is the ability to be angry that can give us a sense of ourselves and our boundaries, and thus enable us to freely move into more intimate and committed relationships.

By this anger, I meant what Aristotle said: “Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within every body’s power and it’s not easy.”

I confronted my discomfort regarding conflict, I got so far I became a mediator, I am not only comfortable with it, I am out to help people respond to it in a productive, emotionally educated way!

Right Here Right Now

Today I run Intrepid Dandelion to help people find fulfillment and joy in relationships, live courageously and authentically to their full potential; and navigate conflicts with ease. I have spent the past eight years coaching people who are driven and serious about playing full out; leading workshops in organizations and schools about relationships, leadership, collaboration, and building a learning culture.

I continue to dive deep into personal development, I believe in growing myself to bring growth to my clients.

Still reading? Since you made it this far, why not get in touch? Email me at lin@theidway.com to connect!